‘Vampire Diaries’ Star, Ian Somerhalder, Threw out His Wife’s Birth Control Without Her Consent and People Are Outraged
t’s appalling to have to say this in 2017, but women deserve control over their own bodies.
Period. End of story.
Vampire Diaries actor Ian Somerhalder and his wife, Twilight actress Nikki Reed, recently appeared on Dr. Berlin’s Informed Pregnancy Podcast, where they chit-chatted about their relationship and pregnancy with their first child, Bodhi, to whom Reed gave birth in July 2017.
During the interview, Somerhalder casually mentioned throwing Reed’s birth control pills away without her permission, as if it was a hilarious anecdote, as if it is acceptable to sabotage your own wife’s contraceptive efforts, as if we live in a world where it’s OK for men to decide the fates of the women in their lives.
Ooh, the Internet is enraged. And it should be.
You might recognize Ian Somerhalder from Lost or The Vampire Diaries.
The actor was known primarily for those two TV parts until he admitted to abusing his wife. We bet that’ll be his most recognizable starring role from now on.
Somerhalder and Reed were first spotted together in July 2014, and their relationship moved extremely fast from there.
By January 2015, after only six months of dating, they were engaged. They tied the knot just a few months after that, in April 2015, and Reed announced she was pregnant on May 4, 2017.
Hey, more power to people who move that fast because they are mutually in love and mutually making those decisions.
But considering the new information about Somerhalder’s coercive habits, the timeline is suspect.
In the podcast episode — before Somerhalder reveals his egregious act — he first reveals that he just knew he would marry Reed after only their second night together.
Reed’s reaction? “He told me the story later and I’m like, ‘That’s so presumptuous.’”
Uh. Yeah. Sure, it can be romantic to fall instantly in love with someone. But Somerhalder seemed to be expressing this weird kind of ownership over Reed before they were even really dating, and it clearly only got more problematic.
Somerhalder kept the relationship pressure up only months into their relationship.
This is basic love bombing.
“We talked about kids before we were actually dating,” Reed said on the podcast.
And this is where it really starts to get appalling.
“You know it was interesting,” Reed said. “I didn’t know if I wanted kids. Some women grow up and just from the time they’re a little kid, they just, they know things like what their wedding’s going to look like or how many kids they want or if they’re definitely going to be a mom, and I love kids and I wasn’t sure I didn’t want to be a mom, I just didn’t…I didn’t know.”
That’s a huge, larger-than-life decision for any woman to make, but it should be hers and hers alone.
After some more chatting, Dr. Berlin asked, “So, when did you really decide to have a kid?”
And that’s when Somerhalder launched into this atrocious and upsetting answer…